Do you ever feel like you are going to snap in half? Do you ever feel like you are hanging by a thread? Do you feel overwhelmed and stretched thin? I know the feeling friend. Life can do that to us sometimes. We are all busy people. We have responsibilities like work, family, friends, kids, school, church, hobbies and then on top of that we have to sleep at one point or another. I have 5 tips that have helped me relief some of those feelings I asked you about earlier that I think will help you too.
1. Learn How to Say No
Gosh. This is so hard but it is so important! I get that you want to volunteer and be a part of everything that is going on around you but it is simply not possible to do it all with a cheerful heart when you are sleep deprived, haven’t spent time with your husband, have a paper due at midnight or have kids who depend on you to live. There are priorities that simply take…well priority over other things. Learn to say no. I am not saying be rude or anything like that but simply say, “Unfortunately, I cannot commit to that this time” or “I apologize, I will not be joining you for [ insert important but not life threatening event here], I need to rest”. I think the reason why we take on so much more than what we know can handle is because sometimes we get shamed into doing things. Know yourself well enough to know what you can take on at this point in your life and if you have to cut things out, do it. This is step one to keeping your sanity. If you read my first Let’s Talk post you know that I am working on managing the fear or failure. I think that sometimes I sabotage myself! I bite on more than I can chew and then fail and beat myself up for being a “failure” when I set myself up in that position by trying to juggle 10 things at once.
2. Learn How to Rest
I am not of the belief that you can rest when you die. We all need rest. When I am stressed out and overwhelmed the last thing I want to do is rest because I feel like I have no time. I need to go go go and check things off my checklist. That’s naturally who I am. Raymond on the other hand is the opposite. If he is tired it doesn’t matter that there is a stack of dishes in the sink, he will rest and relax and get to the dishes when he gets to them. He knows that tomorrow there will still be more things to do around the house that leaving the dishes for one night is not a big deal. I can’t. I put chores, people, and priorities before my rest. I am learning how to put things aside to be able to rest and do nothing to help recharge my batteries (my mom says that phrase and I love it!).
3. Do Something Fun
Don’t you hate it when you’re in bed Sunday evening and you’re like, “Man, I didn’t do anything fun this weekend”. All you did was chores and errands and now tomorrow is Monday and the week starts all over again. Fun and laughter is the best stress reliever. Go on a date night to a piano bar, go to the comedy club or go dancing or relax at the movies. Have fun! We all have different ideas of what fun is because we all have different preferences but fun for me is shopping. Ha! There’s nothing better than a little retail therapy!
4. Share the Load
Asking for help takes a lot of humility. It takes guts to admit that you simply can’t do it all on your own. Ask for help from the people around you that care for you and that you trust. Don’t hold your stress in, share it with friends that can encourage you and help push you through a tough time. Having people in your life that can lift you up when you are down is imperative to a healthy life. Allowing people in to our life and letting them see us ask for help is not a bad thing. It is only proof that we are more alike than we thought.
5. Spend Time with God
Of course I could not end this post without giving you the best tip I could ever give you. Spend time with God. Meditate on his word and spend time in his presence, pray and spend time in worship. This is the best thing you can do. You will feel recharged and hopeful. Trust in the Lord to renew your strength to be able to do everything you have to do in the day. Allow him to be your strength when you are weak and want to throw your arms in the air and give up because…well life.
I hope you are encouraged to consolidate your priorities so that you can do well in everything you commit yourself to! Thank you so much for hanging out with me, I think about you who are reading this and pray for you. I pray that you confide in the Lord to help you with stress and that you see how giving up control to God can free you from anxiety and fear.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my rock and my Redeemer.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.